What is love?

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Love is a complex set of emotions, behaviours, and beliefs associated with strong feelings of affection, protectiveness, warmth, and respect for another person. Love can also be used to apply to non-human animals, to principles, to religious beliefs. For example, a person might say he or she loves his or her dog, loves freedom, or loves God. Words are limited to describe love.

Young people fall in love. Young men and young women fall in love. What does that mean?  That means that he saw in this women someone who felt could provide him with all his physical and emotional needs. And she felt in this man somebody she felt in this man that she can write that was love. but each one is looking out for their own needs. It's love for the other. The other person becomes a vehicle for me Too much of what is called love is fish love.

 An external love is not on what I'm going to get but what I am going to give. According to ethicist  Rabbi Dessler who said, "the people make a serious mistake in thinking that you give to those whom you love, the real answer is you love those to whom you give". this point is if I give something to you, I have invested myself in you. and since self-love is a given, everybody loves themselves. 




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