Goodbye hurts

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You’ve changed me. I used to see the world as black and white. Now everything is gray and messy, full of nuance and beauty because of you. In an alternate universe, we’ll still be together. A team ready for anything. But where I’m heading now, I have to go on my own. I want to be the man you think I am, so know I am doing this to do the right things. And that means saying GOODBYE. I know this is a difficult conversation. But I care about you very much. And that’s why it’s important that I set these boundaries moving forward, so I can built an environment, where we feel comfortable, trusted and open to sharing our feelings. The truth is for so long I’d forgotten what those even were. I‘ve been stuck in one place “in a cave” you might say. And then I left some egos out in the woods, and you came into my life and for the first time in a long time, I started to feel things. I started to feel happy. But lately, I guess I’ve been feeling distance from you. But I know you’re getting older. Growing, changing and I guess, if I’m being really honest, that’s what scares me. I don’t want things to change. So I think maybe that’s why I came in here, to try to maybe …….. stop that change, to turn the back the clock. To make the things go back to how they were. I know that naive. It’s just not how life works. It’s move, always moving, weather you like it or not. And yeah, sometime it’s painful. Some time it’s sad. And sometime it’s surprising, happy. So you know what? Keep on growing up. Don’t let me stop you. Make mistake, learn from them, and when life hurts you, because it will, remember the hurts. The hurt is good. It means you’re out of the cave.

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